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Recently, a facebook friend sent me a funny blog post, Needing Some Closure, about a contest for the “holiest” email closing. Rather than ending with a secular “Sincerely,” they use In Him or Because of His Grace or one novel notation used In His Grip. The post cracked me up; in part because I get annoyed by these public service announcements. But another part of me laughed because,  back when I was pretty green-under-the-collar, I really used to worry about how I should sign my notes! I didn’t want to come across as overly pious but I also didn’t want to offend the overly pious by not being very pious. And then there was the whole plus sign problem. Sometimes I saw it in front of people’s names, sometimes, after. I wonder how many times I did it wrong before it was pointed out to me that Bishops put the + in front of their names and the rest of us clergy add our addition at the end. Anyway, to make a very short story long, all this is to lead up to my point (and I’m sure you’ve all followed my logical train of thought that led me here): there should be rules for the religious on Facebook.  I couldn’t find a list on Google, so I decided to create my own. Feel free to add, amend or delete as you see fit.

1. Script Your Scripture: Don’t post random, stand-alone scripture verses as status updates. If you have a personal response to a scripture verse, then by all means, share it. If its true what they say that “Content is King” in social media, then “Content in Context is King of Kings,” brothers and sisters!
2. Shade Your Sonshine: Gratitude is great; but too much of it, all the time,  just comes across as fake and disingenuous. Some of you might want to pepper your updates with a “Golly gee, I’m sure struggling to find an attitude of gratitude after I was mugged and abducted by aliens.”
3. Lay Off the Lament: Don’t go to the other extreme and be a Whiny Baby either. I love Eeyore, but I don’t want him as my facebook friend.
4. Police Your Piece: If you’re going to represent the Supreme Representer, you might want to consider being political correct. I know a lot of people think they are Truth-Telling when they bash the concept of p.c., but really, its a matter of being sensitive to others’ feelings, not ignoring reality.
5. Mute the Mic: Speaking of politics; there’s a lot of it on Facebook. Sometimes I’d like my very political friends to get off their soapboxes just long enough to tell me something else that’s going on in their life. The same can be said for my religious friends. Every once in a while, post something sordidly secular.
6. Fav Your Flock: If you’re clergy, don’t post that you don’t have time for Facebook. Because that’s the same as saying you don’t have time for the people in your church that are on Facebook. Besides, you sound like you’re way more important than we know you to be.
7. Halt the Haughty: You don’t have to spend a lot of time on Facebook and no one expects you to read everyone’s updates. But its nice, its polite, and it just may be the exercise in humility that you need, to comment every so often on someone else’s posts. Listening can be your friend.
8. Cheer Your Child: Do LOL. I’m not saying you have to LMAO (or LYAO) or other extreme bursts of humor. But many religious folk tend to take themselves way too seriously. Lighten up! Enjoy a bit of silly and playful and Will Ferrell.
9. Face Your Facts: Use a real picture of yourself. Fill out a full profile, favorite books, movies, and all. Share yourself! That’s the point.
10. Hug the Humanity: Just be yourself. Accept your human condition. And don’t worry so much what others will think of you. It’s not like there’s anyone’s passing judgment and creating a set of rules!

What have I missed? What annoys you about the really religious on Facebook? Have you got any good examples of over-the-top status updates? No names, please, let’s protect the innocent (those in their faith community!).

On the Wings of He Who Soars Above and Takes Me Along For the Ride,

Sarah(plus)

p.s. Please don’t assume that my general criticism of others is, in any way, shape, or form, an invitation to criticize my own, delightful and charming status updates.

My seminary professor, Charlie Cook, always told us that the real Vestry Meeting took place afterward in the parking lot. It didn’t take me long to realize, once again, the truth and wisdom of another Charlie-ism. After the meeting is adjourned, people gather and say what they really think about the agenda. Thoughts are shared that were not expressed earlier because of any number of reasons. Maybe they didn’t want to be the only one to appear contrary. Or maybe they were confused and didn’t want to appear clueless. Sometimes, it might be because the person didn’t feel that their opinion would be heard in the meeting anyway or that they could influence the discussion with the previously gathered group.

Whatever the motivation or motivations behind this dynamic, the point is that many times the most critical conversations take place beyond the “official” setting of the conference room. What Charlie was not able to anticipate in his caution was that the parking lot would eventually extend into the virtual realm of the World Wide Web. But the power of social media and web 2.0 has proven to be a game changer. And it would be foolish and shortsighted for the Church to ignore this phenomena.

“Social media refers to activities, practices, and behaviors among communities of people who gather online to share information, knowledge and opinions using conversational media” (Safko & Brake). Web 2.0 refers to recent technologies developed on the web that enable average computer users to interact with one another easily and cheaply. One year ago, I only used my computer as a word processor and to occasionally research a topic to settle an argument with my husband . Today, I connect with long lost friends on Facebook, I meet fellow like-minded Anglicans all over the world on Twitter and I publish my thoughts and experiences, however un-extraordinary or un-clever they may be, on this blog to be read by anyone that has an internet connection. Today, I use my computer to engage others.

It is the ability to engage others, parishioners and seekers, that are meeting on the virtual church parking lot that makes learning about and participating in social media worth every Church leader’s time and energy. No one could argue that one of the primary purposes of the Church is to communicate; we are in the business of spreading the Word. Today, we can proclaim beyond the spheres of the pulpit, tracts, newsletters and even e-mail. From the first days of the Church’s existence, she organized in order to bear one another’s burdens, comfort and care for those in the community, and strive to solve social ills. Today, we can collaborate beyond geographical, financial, and organizational barriers of the past. We can exercise the ministry of teaching and counsel to more people and in more dynamic ways. And as anyone who has seen a LOLcats picture can testify, we can have fun doing it.

Businesses are scrambling to learn how to utilize these technologies to benefit their profit margins and there are a gazillion examples of successful social media campaigns. There are also a number of cases that demonstrate how social media can be harmful and destructive to the reputations of both products and people . Social media is the proverbial two-edged sword. But like fire, water, and the Holy Spirit, it is unwise to ignore it just because you don’t understand how to embrace it.

In The Social Media Bible, the authors provide a series of self-assessment questions for the business manager. I have adapted these questions for clergy:

Social Media Inside Your Parish:

• Would committees and guilds in your parish be more effective if they could communicate more quickly and precisely with one another?
• Would committees and guilds in your parish be more productive if they were able to work in a more collaborative environment?
• Could parish community life be improved by increasing the fun quotient?
• Could discipleship training and development be improved?
• Are your parishioners fully engaged in the mission of your Church?

Social Media Directed Outside Your Parish:

• Do you have a strong relationship with your neighborhood/town community?
• Do you know public names, preferences, and needs as they relate to your evangelistic and outreach goals?
• Do you know public feelings about your parish, the Episcopal Church or Christianity in general?
• Have you ever asked the public to tell you of opportunities through which you could provide hospitality or service to the town?
• Would the town welcome an opportunity to help you grow?
• Are there activities in your parish that would provide amusement or entertainment for the public?
• Do you currently do anything to educate the public about the programs offered in your parish?
• Would the public respond positively to an opportunity to learn more about the Episcopal Church?
• If asked, would the average parishioner strong recommend your parish to a friend?
• Do many of your parishioners strongly recommend your parish?