Monthly Archive for September, 2009

Facebook Rules for the Really Religious

Published
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Sarah Bennett
on September 27, 2009
in Emergent Church, Faith, Self and Social Networking
. 7 Comments
facebook icon that religious guy

facebook icon that religious guy

Recently, a facebook friend sent me a funny blog post, Needing Some Closure, about a contest for the “holiest” email closing. Rather than ending with a secular “Sincerely,” they use In Him or Because of His Grace or one novel notation used In His Grip. The post cracked me up; in part because I get annoyed by these public service announcements. But another part of me laughed because,  back when I was pretty green-under-the-collar, I really used to worry about how I should sign my notes! I didn’t want to come across as overly pious but I also didn’t want to offend the overly pious by not being very pious. And then there was the whole plus sign problem. Sometimes I saw it in front of people’s names, sometimes, after. I wonder how many times I did it wrong before it was pointed out to me that Bishops put the + in front of their names and the rest of us clergy add our addition at the end. Anyway, to make a very short story long, all this is to lead up to my point (and I’m sure you’ve all followed my logical train of thought that led me here): there should be rules for the religious on Facebook.  I couldn’t find a list on Google, so I decided to create my own. Feel free to add, amend or delete as you see fit.

  1. Script Your Scripture: Don’t post random, stand-alone scripture verses as status updates. If you have a personal response to a scripture verse, then by all means, share it. If its true what they say that “Content is King” in social media, then “Content in Context is King of Kings,” brothers and sisters!
  2. Shade Your Sonshine: Gratitude is great; but too much of it, all the time,  just comes across as fake and disingenuous. Some of you might want to pepper your updates with a “Golly gee, I’m sure struggling to find an attitude of gratitude after I was mugged and abducted by aliens.”
  3. Lay Off the Lament: Don’t go to the other extreme and be a Whiny Baby either. I love Eeyore, but I don’t want him as my facebook friend.
  4. Police Your Piece: If you’re going to represent the Supreme Representer, you might want to consider being political correct. I know a lot of people think they are Truth-Telling when they bash the concept of p.c., but really, its a matter of being sensitive to others’ feelings, not ignoring reality.
  5. Mute the Mic: Speaking of politics; there’s a lot of it on Facebook. Sometimes I’d like my very political friends to get off their soapboxes just long enough to tell me something else that’s going on in their life. The same can be said for my religious friends. Every once in a while, post something sordidly secular.
  6. Fav Your Flock: If you’re clergy, don’t post that you don’t have time for Facebook. Because that’s the same as saying you don’t have time for the people in your church that are on Facebook. Besides, you sound like you’re way more important than we know you to be.
  7. Halt the Haughty: You don’t have to spend a lot of time on Facebook and no one expects you to read everyone’s updates. But its nice, its polite, and it just may be the exercise in humility that you need, to comment every so often on someone else’s posts. Listening can be your friend.
  8. Cheer Your Child: Do LOL. I’m not saying you have to LMAO (or LYAO) or other extreme bursts of humor. But many religious folk tend to take themselves way too seriously. Lighten up! Enjoy a bit of silly and playful and Will Ferrell.
  9. Face Your Facts: Use a real picture of yourself. Fill out a full profile, favorite books, movies, and all. Share yourself! That’s the point.
  10. Hug the Humanity: Just be yourself. Accept your human condition. And don’t worry so much what others will think of you. It’s not like there’s anyone’s passing judgment and creating a set of rules!

What have I missed? What annoys you about the really religious on Facebook? Have you got any good examples of over-the-top status updates? No names, please, let’s protect the innocent (those in their faith community!).

On the Wings of He Who Soars Above and Takes Me Along For the Ride,

Sarah(plus)

p.s. Please don’t assume that my general criticism of others is, in any way, shape, or form, an invitation to criticize my own, delightful and charming status updates.

The Conversation: The Art of Listening, Learning and Sharing

Published
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Sarah
on September 19, 2009
in Emergent Church, Faith and Social Networking
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The Conversation Prism
The Conversation Prism

An extraordinary thing is happening on the internet: real conversations are taking place where people are listening to other people’s ideas, learning about different perspectives, and sharing their unique knowledge. It seems to me that those of us in the Church could benefit greatly from being a part of this online conversation. But for many of us, especially those of us in our 40s and beyond, feel intimidated and stressed by all this new media stuff. It’s feels as if “cyberspace” has become the proverbial “outer space.” Where users adopt wacky personas and speak in otherwordly language. Recently I came across this beautiful graphic by Brian Solis and loved the way it helped me begin to make sense of the social media tools de jour and the ways in which they are enabling these important conversations to take place.

  • Social Bookmarks: You know how you used to receive tons of newspaper and magazine clippings from your mother of interesting tidbits she stumbled across in her print media readings? You know how you get tons of “You gotta see this” type emails with stupid animal antics or sappy memories of the golden days? Well, these tools do something similar. Only much faster, more cheaply and reaching a much wider audience. Also, they are “permissive” connections, meaning you only read them if you choose to go see what online info Aunt Matilda has recently marked as an interesting tidbit. These aspects of  fast, cheap, large, and permissive are true among all these categories.
  • Crowdsourced Content: You know how much of what people send you as “You Gotta See This” is stupid or offensive or not worth spending your time clicking and uploading? You know how you sometimes feel like you’ve got “information overload”? Well, people use these tools and filter through the junk, by voting on whether or not the content is worthy and you can choose to only look at those things that a LOT of people, and that people that like the things you like, deem valuable.
  • Blogs/Conversations: You know how you see something cool on the internet and you wonder what other people think about it? You know how you think about leaving a comment but you know you’ll never go back to see if anyone else left a comment or if anyone responded to your comment? These tools will let you know when someone has joined your online conversation. You don’t have to keep going back to the site and checking it yourself.
  • Blog Communities: You know how you can get caught up on all the scoop just waiting in the carpool line? You know how you can find out what people are talking about just by dropping by the Sunday morning coffee hour? You know the water cooler? These tools enable you to stay in touch with the latest happenings.
  • Micromedia: You know how sometimes you want to say to your more long-winded friends, “Just give me the short version”? Well, that’s what these tools do.
  • Specific to Twitter: You know how everybody’s talking about Twitter this and Twitter that and you just can’t see the point of all the twittertwatter (pronounce this to rhyme with chitterchatter, please, thank you!)? These tools help you make sense of all the noise.
  • Social Networks: You know how hard it is to keep up with all your friends from high school, college, your home town, your previous jobs? These tools keep you in the social loop!
  • Niche Networks: You know how some people think everyone else is just as interested as they are in the TV series “Lost”? Well, tell them to take all their trivial nonsense over to another niche of the world, a group devoted to the secret connections of Lost, or the legal profession, or the birthers.
  • Location: You know when you’re out-of-town and you want to know where the locals hang out or what is the best route around town? Yep.
  • Live Video and Audio: You know how you’d love to watch T.V. or listen to a radio program with comments from the ‘Peanut Gallery’? Apparently, there really is a Peanut Gallery, and they use these tools.
  • Customer Service Networks: You know how sometimes you don’t trust the “official” reviews or recommendations because you think there might be some hidden agenda? And how you just want somebody real and normal like you (well, anyway) to give you the skinny? Meet fellow consumers through these tools, then.
  • Video: You know how you’ve always wanted to be on T.V. or the radio? No? Well, if you did, you could, for free!
  • Video Aggregation: You know how you’re working on a report and you get totally stumped on one bullet point? Well, that’s where I am with this one.
  • Pictures: You know how you know you could find just one decent picture of you from the reunion weekend if only you could  look through the photographs of every picture taken at the event? Or you know how you always forget to bring your camera? Someone could always have your back with these tools.
  • Documents: You know how you think everyone should read your dissertation or how you need a copy, immediately, of the white paper you wrote for the conference but forgot to bring with you? There’s a heavenly library up there in the clouds just waiting to be resourced!

Stay tuned, right here, for examples of how some faith communities (or other types) are using these tools to great benefit both within their communities and reaching out to others. And if you think you might forget to come back and check my updates, try using the RSS feed. And if you “dig” this article, DiggIT!

    Beware: The Church “Parking Lot Meeting” Has Gone Online

    Published
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    Sarah
    on September 15, 2009
    in Emergent Church, Faith and Social Networking
    . 2 Comments

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    My seminary professor, Charlie Cook, always told us that the real Vestry Meeting took place afterward in the parking lot. It didn’t take me long to realize, once again, the truth and wisdom of another Charlie-ism. After the meeting is adjourned, people gather and say what they really think about the agenda. Thoughts are shared that were not expressed earlier because of any number of reasons. Maybe they didn’t want to be the only one to appear contrary. Or maybe they were confused and didn’t want to appear clueless. Sometimes, it might be because the person didn’t feel that their opinion would be heard in the meeting anyway or that they could influence the discussion with the previously gathered group.

    Whatever the motivation or motivations behind this dynamic, the point is that many times the most critical conversations take place beyond the “official” setting of the conference room. What Charlie was not able to anticipate in his caution was that the parking lot would eventually extend into the virtual realm of the World Wide Web. But the power of social media and web 2.0 has proven to be a game changer. And it would be foolish and shortsighted for the Church to ignore this phenomena.
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    “Social media refers to activities, practices, and behaviors among communities of people who gather online to share information, knowledge and opinions using conversational media” (Safko & Brake). Web 2.0 refers to recent technologies developed on the web that enable average computer users to interact with one another easily and cheaply. One year ago, I only used my computer as a word processor and to occasionally research a topic to settle an argument with my husband :) . Today, I connect with long lost friends on Facebook, I meet fellow like-minded Anglicans all over the world on Twitter and I publish my thoughts and experiences, however un-extraordinary or un-clever they may be, on this blog to be read by anyone that has an internet connection. Today, I use my computer to engage others.

    It is the ability to engage others, parishioners and seekers, that are meeting on the virtual church parking lot that makes learning about and participating in social media worth every Church leader’s time and energy. No one could argue that one of the primary purposes of the Church is to communicate; we are in the business of spreading the Word. Today, we can proclaim beyond the spheres of the pulpit, tracts, newsletters and even e-mail. From the first days of the Church’s existence, she organized in order to bear one another’s burdens, comfort and care for those in the community, and strive to solve social ills. Today, we can collaborate beyond geographical, financial, and organizational barriers of the past. We can exercise the ministry of teaching and counsel to more people and in more dynamic ways. And as anyone who has seen a LOLcats picture can testify, we can have fun doing it.

    Businesses are scrambling to learn how to utilize these technologies to benefit their profit margins and there are a gazillion examples of successful social media campaigns. There are also a number of cases that demonstrate how social media can be harmful and destructive to the reputations of both products and people . Social media is the proverbial two-edged sword. But like fire, water, and the Holy Spirit, it is unwise to ignore it just because you don’t understand how to embrace it.
    selfassessment
    In The Social Media Bible, the authors provide a series of self-assessment questions for the business manager. I have adapted these questions for clergy:

    Social Media Inside Your Parish:

    • Would committees and guilds in your parish be more effective if they could communicate more quickly and precisely with one another?
    • Would committees and guilds in your parish be more productive if they were able to work in a more collaborative environment?
    • Could parish community life be improved by increasing the fun quotient?
    • Could discipleship training and development be improved?
    • Are your parishioners fully engaged in the mission of your Church?

    Social Media Directed Outside Your Parish:

    • Do you have a strong relationship with your neighborhood/town community?
    • Do you know public names, preferences, and needs as they relate to your evangelistic and outreach goals?
    • Do you know public feelings about your parish, the Episcopal Church or Christianity in general?
    • Have you ever asked the public to tell you of opportunities through which you could provide hospitality or service to the town?
    • Would the town welcome an opportunity to help you grow?
    • Are there activities in your parish that would provide amusement or entertainment for the public?
    • Do you currently do anything to educate the public about the programs offered in your parish?
    • Would the public respond positively to an opportunity to learn more about the Episcopal Church?
    • If asked, would the average parishioner strong recommend your parish to a friend?
    • Do many of your parishioners strongly recommend your parish?

    It’s not like I’m selling Indulgences, just Ember Day Letters.

    Published
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    Sarah
    on September 14, 2009
    in Faith, Self and Theology
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    Angst of Ember Season

    Angst of Ember Season

    It’s that time again! Today, Holy Cross Day, begins another week of Ember Days. I’m aware of this because several of my networked friends are in the ordination process and posting laments (good liturgical word) about the need to write their Bishops this week. Just reading their posts made my stomach start overproducing acid and my Catholic-guilt and worry start to rear its ugly head. That last effect is particularly annoying to me because I have never been a Roman Catholic. But I am so good at this Catholic rite that I’m pretty sure Peter’s going to count me as one of his own when I meet him at the Pearly Gates.

    For my non-liturgical or low-church or unchurched friends, let me explain the issue. According to ancient tradition, there are four times a year (Ember Days) during which an aspirant/postulant/candidate/ordinand (one who is in the ordination process) is to write a letter to their Bishop. Here’s a link to a pretty decent explanation of the tradition on Wikipedia. Even though I had been an Episcopalian all my life and worked in the Episcopal Church since I was in my early 20s, I had never heard of this tradition before I became an aspirant/postulant/etc.. So that gives you a little hint about just how important this tradition is to the average pew-sitter. They’re on the level of Rogation Days (I bet most readers have to google that too,) merely step-children of the Liturgical Calendar. But we’ve all met those phariseedual types (I just coined that word, so please give me all attribution rights) that are quite legalistic and rigid about, well, everything. My diocese leaned toward that Phariseedic side.

    Shame On You

    Some of my friends came from more libertarian diocese where the Bishop didn’t care about getting Ember Day letters. But as my luck tends to run, my diocese was one of those that saw this tradition as an opportunity for an ordination fitness litmus test. I was told that my ember letters better be on the desk of my bishop before the last day of the week or there would be dire, dire consequences. It was a thinly veiled threat that one could be booted out of the process for failure to comply and that any so-called ‘emergency’ such as accidental decapitation, house fire, alien abduction would not constitute sufficient cause for posting your letter late. It would only prove that you did not adequately prepare for the unexpected and therefore you obviously couldn’t be counted on to provide leadership in an institution (the Church) where preparedness is kind of a big deal (that whole 2nd coming, apocalypse part).

    He's Back; Look Busy!

    It wasn’t that I was a procrastinator or unaware of the liturgical calendar. I’m rarely late for anything. But I never knew “what” I was suppose to write. We were told to let the Bishop know how you were doing, how you were coming along, in the whole ” priestly formation” thing. But, really, you couldn’t do that, not honestly. I mean, we’re talking a serious Catch 22 here! If you said, “I am really coming along, feeling myself more and more formed into a priest every day” one might interpret you as too confident, arrogant, and not introspective. But if you said, “I am coming to realize just how unworthy and unprepared I am to ever step foot in a pulpit and proclaim the gospel” one might interpret you as too insecure, neurotic, and pitiful. You wouldn’t want to admit that the seminary experiencing is all-consuming and is proving to be quite a stressor on your family life. But it almost always is. The Bishop knows the Church will be even harder stress on your family. You wouldn’t want to admit that the higher-level of critical theological thinking is wrecking havoc with your faith and you aren’t sure what, if anything, you believe anymore. But it almost always does. The Bishop knows that the Church will be even more destructive to your idealism and child-like innocence.

    smiling priest

    So, I would fret over these stupid letters ad-nauseum. I would have paid good money if someone would just write the darn thing for me. That’s why, this morning, upon reading my friends’ ember posts, I had this brilliant, genius of an idea to ’sell’ automated, computer-generated Ember Day Letters that could be tailored to individuals through the client providing a few custom words (nouns, adjectives, and an adverb or two.) Like a Mad Lib. The fancy name is I would utilize a phrasal template word game program. I do have one small problem. That is, I never could figure out how to write an ember day letter so I have no idea what to put in my template. I need your help; consider it your christian duty. If you will provide a sentence or two in the comments below this post, I will share a percentage of my Mad LibEmbers royalties with you. Thank you for your participation!

    Published
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    Sarah
    on September 10, 2009
    in Faith
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    Twitter Weekly Updates for 2009-09-06

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    Sarah
    on September 6, 2009
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    Twitter Weekly Updates for 2009-09-06

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